Would you be able to spot a narcissist?
John Steley
Date posted: 1 Nov 2023
When we think of the word ‘narcissism’ we may imagine people taking selfies, maintaining an attractive image on social media or something similar. True narcissism, however, is something far more serious.
It destroys communities, churches, marriages, families and individuals. It is not just a case of people showing-off, annoying as that may be. True narcissism is destructive and it needs to be understood. That is why I have written the booklet.* It is a warning for all who work with people – that is all of us.
Sex on the screen
John Steley
Date posted: 1 Oct 2007
In 2006, The Independent on Sunday reported that almost 40% of the male population of Britain had used pornographic websites in the previous year.
The study by Nielsen NetRatings also showed that 1.4 million women in Britain had used online pornography in the same period.1 I would like to think that the situation among Christians is totally different. Sadly, this is not the case.
Heavy-handed?
John Steley
Date posted: 1 Jun 2007
I feel sorry for parents today. So many people tell them not to smack their children. They are told that smacking only modifies behaviour in the short-term. They are told that it models violent behaviour and can therefore teach the child to be violent towards others.
If a child’s behaviour must be changed then they are told that it can be done more effectively by other non-violent means. The logic of these arguments, based as they are on the social psychology of aggression and the behaviourist theory of reinforcement, seems to be irrefutable.
Confessions of a Christian psychologist
John Steley
Date posted: 1 Jul 1997
I have a confession to make. It's not that I have done anything illegal or even grossly immoral. It's just that sometimes I question my role.
You see, I work as a psychologist down in the East End of London. That place where the soap opera comes from - except there aren't any cameras. It is not a lack of work that is my problem, there has always been plenty of that. Nor do I question the effectiveness of psychology in helping many of the people I meet.