9 things I’ve learned from miscarrying two babies

Starting an article with a content warning of miscarriage is never a fun opener but here we are all the same. Welcome. I hope this helps you, or a friend you love who is going through something like this as we land Baby Loss Awareness Week for another year.

1. Miscarriage: I’ve learned that there’s a club. There are surprisingly large numbers of members and once you’re in, you’ll be meeting fellow members for the rest of your life. Be gentle and careful if commenting on anyone’s family size.
2. No matter how many stories you hear, everyone’s journey is different. Baby Loss Awareness Week encompasses those who were never able to have biological or adopted children, as well as those who met their children - but not in the way any parent would want to. There are different griefs, pain points, expectations and journeys. I’m part of the miscarriage crew, so not a stillbirth (which is defined as a loss after 20 weeks). We lost our babies Pax and Moses before 12 weeks. They were back-to-back miscarriages.